In that meeting, one of them who settled in USA immediately after our studies (1979) has informed that at initial stages, whenever he spoke , the Americans asked him to repeat again what he had told because they could not understood as he was speaking very fast as per American custom.
It took 3 months for him to slow down his speech and adjust to the USA conditions. He also informed that even now he speaks at his customary fast speed only with Indians settled in USA, but speaks slowly with American people.
Here, let's us compare about our stammering. For a fluent speaker like him (he is one of the best fluent English speakers in our batch) required three months time to slow down his speech. With his perfect speech mechanism, with perfect body language and more proficiency in English, three month time were required for him to slowdown his speech. Then think of how much time Stammerers need to correct their speech having so many complex problems with them. A minimum of one year is required to control / overcome their stammering.
Coming back to this core point of this message, I myself experienced the same thing today.
One of my class mates (living in Dubai now) requested me to arrange a visit to a sewage treatment plant at Chennai for her daughter's classmate (who is from USA).
I have arranged for her visit on 7th Dec 2014. After picking her, we proceeded to the treatment plant location.
During our initial conversation, she asked me again and again to repeat what I told to her (even though I never stammered). Then, she herself told that here all are speaking very fast.
Then only I started noticing her style of speaking. She was speaking slowly almost in our speech practicing speed. Then, I also started speaking slowly. Though initially it was tough for me, but after 15 minutes I adjusted to the situation and started speaking slowly.
I was with her for about 4 hours. And most of the time I have spoken to her slowly and also comfortably with very minimum stammering. She also started understanding my speech and never asked me again to repeat what I had told to her.
Now I have realised that situation & mind also plays important roles to improve our speech. The power of our mind is really amazing. It's adjusting according to the requirement of every situations. It's up to us to properly use it.
If Stammerers slowdown their speech, they will defiantly speak better. They can easily slowdown their speaking speed. If there is a will, there is a way.
Finally, I want to tell one important observation during my 4 hours conversation with her. She never asked about my stammering. Never shown any different kind of facial expression whenever I stammered. I think she never bothered about my stammering.
So, in this world Stammerers alone bothering about their stammering and none others.